It’s all about what you’re asking for, or… what you’re not.

It wasn’t a particularly good marriage, but it probably wasn’t a particularly bad marriage, either, as far as marriages go. What was horrible, was the insular box around it, preventing and any kind of personal growth and development, at least for me, anyway.

And that’s why I ended it.

Growth needs a catalyst, and most of the time… that catalyst has to come from the outside, at least, initially. After all, you can’t know anything more than what’s inside your head right now, so unless you’re constantly pursuing — or in my case, fervently chasing — those “one big ideas,” you’re not going to find them.

Few of us are Einstein’s, where we’re so up in our head and such dynamic creative’s that your mind is like a wellspring of inventiveness. I’m not, that’s for sure.

Anyway, the biggest problem I probably had in my first marriage was my wife was stuck in the past and unable to move forward. And her past, like mine, was frankly, pretty miserable.

But the thing is, in life, and especially in business, people treat you the way you want to be treated. The universe is like that — it gives you what you ask for — no more… and no less.

So if you view yourself as a proverbial doormat for people to walk over and trample on, that’s what’s going to happen.

If you think you’re something special, then that’s what people are going to think of you, too.

And if you believe, in your heart of hearts, you’re just average, then… you’ll be average, earn average amounts, and have an average life (maybe).

The more successful you are, the better you’d better feel about yourself, otherwise you’re working on a house of cards that’s gonna get blown down.

If things aren’t working for you now, I’d suggest you think this information through, and ask yourself “How am I asking the world to treat me?” A lot of your frustration and obstacles may lie in the answer to this question.

Look, no one has a crystal ball. Your marketplace can only make decisions based on the information you’re giving them, and… the information you’re not giving them. What kind of information is that, for you?

Now go sell something, Craig Garber

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About the Author

Craig GarberAuthor of "How To Make Maximum Money With Minimum Customers, " and publisher of Seductive Selling - an offline marketing newsletter currently read in 15 countries, world-wide. In a nutshell, I do two things: 1. I show you how to attract a reliable, steady stream of pre-qualified leads who are ready to do business with you NOW... 2. And I increase your net profits and cash-flow, by increasing your customer, client, or patient value -- often, dramatically. How do I do this? By developing, and helping you implement, unique, personalized lead generation and marketing strategies... using compelling sales messages that push your customers emotional buy-buttons. I've worked with over 300 clients in more than 104 different industries, since March of 2000, and I really enjoy what I do. I'm a stable, reliable, happily married family guy with three kids who loves life and always follows through on my commitments and promises. I love to listen to music, workout, read, travel with my family, take pictures, and go bass fishing. I always say "Yes," when it comes to good cigars, good books, and good coffee :-)