10 Biggest, most painful lessons I learned in 2014:
First off, since we haven’t spoke in almost two weeks, I certainly hope you had a great holiday season.
I spent a lot of time with my family, and got to catch up with a bunch of my friends.
So, it was a peaceful and relaxing time, which is probably how the holidays should be.
Last year was an interesting year for me. I experienced more personal growth and development last year, and learned more good things about myself, than in probably 10 years. For example:
1. This might sound odd, but I came to the conclusion that struggling is optional.
For most of my life, probably because I had a really troubled childhood, I’ve always tended to sub-consciously gravitate to those projects and tasks that are difficult to do.
“Underdog” types of projects, or businesses that are typically beset with obstacles and difficulties right from the get-go.
My mindset had always been, “I’m Craig Garber. I’ve already gone through a ton of shit in my life. There’s nothing I can’t do, and I’ll prove it to you.”
And this is a stupid way of thinking.
Not surprisingly, most of these projects didn’t work – and the ones that did work, I had to work SO incredibly hard… that every single minute, of every single day, it felt like I was holding my breath under water. From the first minute I woke up, straight through until I placed my head down on my pillow at night.
I came to the conclusion this year, that life, and certainly business… doesn’t need to be like this.
That struggling really is optional, in many situations.
I vowed not to take on any more projects like this, and I promised never again, to either look for challenges… or to pursue any project or relationship where the universe is constantly giving me resistance, instead of supporting my efforts.
This is such a simple decision to reach. And yet… for some reason – again, I suspect it was due to my early programming from my troubled youth – I didn’t have the level of awareness to come to this conclusion until last year.
I think, in many ways, I got sick and tired of being beat up so much. But the difference this time was… I took the time to really sit back and think about what MY role was in all of these experiences.
Once I did enough digging and realized WHY this was constantly happening to me… I was then able to do something about it.
Since then, I’ve started one new project. I went into this refusing to struggle at all. My thoughts were, if the universe isn’t going to support this project, I’m ok with it, and it simply means it wasn’t meant to be.
Mind you, this doesn’t mean I wasn’t willing to work hard. After all, I have a tremendous work ethic.
It just means I’m not willing to struggle and kill myself day in and day out. I needed to see progress.
And so far, everything is going wonderful. Not only are things moving along, but I’ve met loads and loads of new people to work with and interact with – and all of them have contributed to my success and momentum.
This has never happened before, and I have to attribute it to the new attitude I came into the project with.
Sure, you can sit back and say it was “good timing,” or “serendipity.” But I don’t buy it.
Because I’ve had success in many endeavors before, but it’s always come with heartache, struggle and strife, and a constant “pushing” on my end, with little bounce back on the other end.
My old mindset and what I attracted made everything feel like I was building the pyramids in Egypt brick by brick, all by myself, in the middle of the summer. Now, it feels like a balanced ebb and flow… kind of like floating down a relatively calm river.
And moving forward, I won’t accept any less. Because as I said, I’ve come to the conclusion that struggle is truly optional.
Where I used to say, “I’m Craig Garber. I’ve already gone through a ton of shit in my life. There’s nothing I can’t do, and I’ll prove it to you”…
Today, I say “I’m Craig Garber. I’ve already gone through a ton of shit in my life, and I’ve had enough of that. So moving forward, I’m looking for peace, minimal stress, and fun.”
On this Month’s Maximum Money Club call, which takes place this Thursday, I’ll be sharing this, along with the 9 other big transformation lessons I learned in 2014.
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I’ll look forward to talking with you this Thursday.
Have a GREAT year.
Now go sell something, Craig Garber
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